Self-Regulation and The Breakfast Club

We are currently learning about adolescents and self-regulation in our MEHRIT centre course.  We talked about how teenagers want to understand the science behind self-regulation, the biology and the cognition so that they understand why to do self-regulation and how it supports them. While I have never taught secondary school I am mom to two wonderful daughters and I remember the stress that they endured as teenagers and the stress that I endured as well.

One of our assignments was to select a teen-aged character from movies, TV or literature and analyze them using the question prompts from the Self-Reg Five Domain Student Profile. 

This is one of those assignments where I could spend way too much time just thinking about which adolescent character to use - Harry Potter, Ron Weasley and Hermione Granger from J.K. Rowling were my first thought.  Then I thought about Holden Caufield from Catcher in the Rye.  Instead, I went back to my youth and watched The Breakfast Club as my 'homework.'  I chose to analyze Allison, portrayed by Ally Sheedy, aka 'the basket case.'

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Biological Domain:

• Allison appears tired and withdrawn
• She withdraws by putting her head down on the table and covering herself with the hood of her jacket. 
• Her lunch consists of sugar packets (pixie sticks) and cereal on slices of white bread

Emotional Domain:

• Allison is initially very quiet and withdrawn with occasional outbursts
• when embarrassed she does not 'bounce back' but instead she withdraws and hides in her large jacket 
• She reveals that she has a strained relationship with her parents as they are busy with problems of their own
• She talks about running away from home

Cognitive Domain: - very little information is provided on the cognitive domain

Social Domain:

• Allison states "I have no friends"
• She engages in solitary activities such as drawing
• She keeps herself separate from the rest of the group - sits away from them, uses her clothing and furniture as a barrier
• She begins to participate in group activities as the movie progresses such as dancing on the top of the bookshelves with Claire
• She reveals that she didn't actually have a detention; she comes to detention because she wants to. This makes me wonder if she wants to have friends, isn't sure how to make friends and going to detention is her way of being around other people without a lot of expectations to interact.  She is looking for peers to help her regulate and detention is where she knows she can find them.
• She is willing to let Claire give her a makeover and kisses Andrew at the end of the film so she appears to be engaging in 'friend-making behaviour.'  

Prosocial Domain:

• Allison is a compulsive liar
• She is a thief
• She does not participate in school activities such as clubs, teams, etc.
• She purposefully engages in activities that would be considered 'weird' like using her dandruff to add snow to a picture 
• She does understand the complexity of social norms.  When the students are talking about sex, she says,  "Well, if you say you haven't, you're a prude.  If you say you have, you're a slut.  It's a trap. You want to but you can't and when you do you wish you didn't." 

I found this to be a great way to practice using the five domains to analyze behaviour.  Since I haven't taught secondary school students, do those of you in secondary or post-secondary think this would be a worthwhile activity for students as part of ongoing learning about self-regulation?  I think it would also be interesting to look at Allison's behaviour through the Five Steps of Self-Regulation as well.  What character from what movie, TV show or book would you choose?

Resources to Help Kids and Adults Deal with the Stress of Inauguration

One of the keys to self-regulation is that we need to be aware of when we are feeling stressed - why and why now?  

Today is the inauguration of Donald Trump as the US President.  While I am a Canadian, I live right on the border with the US.  To paraphrase Sarah Palin, I can see the United States from my house.  My husband works in the US as do many of our neighbours and friends.  The day of the US Presidential election I was having an 'off day.'  I ate all kinds of junk that I knew was not good for me.  I knew it was stress eating but I couldn't seem to stop.  I was unable to focus on any particular reading or task that day.  It wasn't until I read Susan Hopkin's blog entry on the US election the next day that I realized the amount of stress and anxiety that I had around the election. 

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If I look at this inauguration through the self-regulation lens, I can see stress in many of the domains:

Biological domain - lack of sleep and poor food choices due to stress; I have been trying to be more mindful of making good food choices and going to the gym to counteract these factors.

Emotional domain - worry and fear around the unknown.  Living in a border city, we spend a lot of time going back and forth across the border for entertainment,  and for work.  What will be the impact of Trump's presidency on our day-to-day lives as cross-border citizens?

Cognitive domain - In her blog, Susan referred to information overload during the election - the constant barrage of tweets, social media posts and news stories and there is the same media saturation for the inauguration.  It seems to permeate everything right now.  

Social domain - it seems like every social gathering over the holidays there was a conversation around the election.  I'm so done talking about what will or might happen during the Trump presidency. I feel like I just want to get this over with so we can get on to whatever our new normal is going to be for the next four years.

Prosocial domain - I'm trying to be open-minded and understand the perspective of those who voted for Trump but, to be honest, it's exhausting.  I'm avoiding the topic, especially with some our American friends and colleagues.  

Today I'll be mindful that it's going to be a stressful day.  I'm going to my dad's for lunch and I know we will watch the inauguration. (I can't help myself.) But I won't eat all the cookies I baked for dad; I'll leave them for him to enjoy.  I've already packed my gym bag and plan to stop for a good workout on my way home. 

The day of the election was awful - I stayed up really late watching the results and thinking that maybe it was going to change while eating unhealthy foods and feeling yucky.  Today I am more mindful.  I will use my self-regulation lens to understand the stressors created by the Trump inauguration.  I will strive to find healthy ways like good food and exercise to help me deal with this stress. And, most likely, a glass of wine at the end of the day!

Some resources you may find helpful:

Talking to Young Children About the Presidential Campaign

Reframing Trump and The 'Limbic Election'

How to Cope with Inauguration Stress 

Three Ways to Better Cope with Inauguration Panic

How are you spending Inauguration Day?